One-Stop Journey of Like - Obsession - Lust - Infatuation - Love

Lately I’ve been surrounded by people who keep talking about romance, particularly love. I don’t know, isn’t love always around? From that talk, I’ve got few more perspectives about it. It’s not that I’m totally clueless about it. It’s just funny that the talk about love is always makes people speaking with particular interest in their eyes, sometimes dreamy, sometimes hurt, sometimes sadly, sometimes sparkling. For me, love is like one big journey, always become big parts of our life. It has its own step, different for each person. Sometimes calmly and slowly growing like waiting a tree to grow. Sometimes it’s just strikes you in unexpected times like lightning.

Learning about love-logy always makes me excited. Talking about love experiences, happiness or sadness, it really doesn’t matter because all of those experiences are worth it. For me, love is always being one extraordinary thing worth to experience. No matter how sad that love is or how happy or how confusing or how annoying, it is enough to know that love is there. I know sometimes falling in love feels like walking blindly to unknown place. Sometimes it feels like riding a rollercoaster. Sometimes it’s just breezing like warm wind. Every feel we had when we’re in love is so precious for a lifetime memory.

Few days ago, one question from my friend makes me think about the answer carefully. He asks about the differences between like-obsession-lust-love and the last, the differences between love and infatuation. Trying to separate those feelings is quite hard, especially when you’re in it. Sometimes those feelings mixed up and you can’t tell the differences between them. I think for each person those entire feelings has different meanings. It’s depends on each experiences and each mind-set of the person. For me, all of those feelings are like step-by-step of events for every romance stories in this world.

I try to define its meanings from my own perspective to answer that question. I think all of you have your own answers. This is from my own experiences in my life, based on the entire story telling from others or from my own memories.



Like is when you feel happy everytime you see him, feel glad everytime you see his laugh, feel content even when it’s just to watch him eating. Like is when you feel sweetness going through your heart when you talk about him. It’s like having a big cotton candy clouds in your head. It’s like having your world painted pink. It’s like eating one big lollipop by yourself. Like is when you feel excited and you can’t stop smiling because of that.

Obsession is when you want to know everything about him, when you want to know every second of his daily life, want to know his thought about anything. Seems like you can't stop thinking about him anytime and you definitely can get him out off your mind. It’s like you want to talk about him again and again. Obsession is like drugs, addicted to someone very hard, only him matter, like the world is spinning in his feet.

Lust is when you look at him and think 'My, what a perfect creature you are. So sexy and sensual and I want to eat u alive.' Every part of his body is a wonderland for you. Lust is when you feel stinging electricity everytime you touch him. It’s like every blood cell in your body rushing through your veins faster. It’s like seeing him and getting your heart beats un-normally fast. It’s like seeing him and your brain stop thinking. All you want to do is touching him everywhere. Lust is uncontrolled part of your actions, it’s when your logic stop speaking for a while.

Infatuation is like a crazy side of falling in love. Usually happens in the first step of fall in love. It’s like you want to do all the craziest things with him, dance in a pouring rain, kissing under the starry skies, laughing like there’s no tomorrow, crying in his embraces. For me, infatuation it's like riding a rollercoaster, always makes your heart beats faster because of uncertainty but definitely makes you feel younger like a teenager.

Love is when you know all the goodness and badness but still feel you can do it. It’s like knowing all the difficulties and think that all of that is really doesn’t matter. Love is like knowing that you don't need him but still you want to spend all of your time with him. Some people might have misconception between need and love. Example: you love your boyfriend because he always there in your side anytime you need him. What if someday he’s not there in your side? Do you still love him that time? I have one irrational thinking that if one man or woman know he or she doesn't need one particular woman or man, and he or she obviously can live without her or him, but still want to spend all his or her life with her or him, then it's love. Love is when you can relate to all the love songs in the world. Love is like having your world colorful. Love is when your heart dominating your logic. Love is always surprising. It’s when you become a different people with different mind. Love is when you want to be his everything. Love is when you want to do anything for him, nothing matter except him. Love is sweet and warm, it’s giving and unconditionally. Love is surprising and all you want to do is drown yourself in it, no matter how hurt you are. Love is like sickness, but you don’t want (or you just can’t) to heal yourself from it. Love is really a drama of extraordinary feelings and emotions. Love is warm and calm, slowly but sure, like an autumn wind blowing in the end of summer time and it makes you more mature in some way.

All of those things are inseparable, one related to the other. It might have different meanings, but for me they have one effect, it makes my brain stop thinking clearly. All of those things always make me the stupidest person on this earth. I’m not proud to state it, but that’s the fact, I’m truly a lovefool. Anyway, in my alibi, who don’t act stupid when they’re in love?



It’s truly rare to meet someone who can make you feel all of those things in a blink of time. As a pathetic dreamer, I always wish to experience that strikes-by-lightning love story. It’s like having your own fairy tale in your life, not only just watch it or hear about it. I’m realist enough to realize that in this world even fairy tale sometimes won’t give you happily ever after. Sometimes there’s a time when you feel like fairy tale is just a bullshit, it doesn’t exist for us. I can’t prove about the existence of fairy tale, but inside I always believe that it does exist. It's different for each person, and maybe you wouldn’t know you’re in it right here right now. But I believe that experienced that extraordinary love story will give you memories you’ll never forget for the rest of your life. And for me, that’s always worth having.

Have a good love everybody. We all do deserve it.

Sincerely yours :)