Friend.Lover.Nothing

From my observation in my twenty-three-something life, from my observation as a woman, in women’s perspective, men are divided into three categories. First are friend. Second are lover. Third are nothing. Of course I talk about women’s perspective in general. This isn’t absolute theory. Just one theory happens to be true in most of women’s population in the world.

For women, there are men who are nothing, who could change to be a friend or a lover later.

Some of men can be a friend, good friend or just friend. Some of them have a potential to be more than that, such as become a lover, and some friends could change to nothing. Some of them remain to be friend from time to time.

And then there are men who can be a lover that could last forever or just in periodical times only. After become a lover, those men only can become a nothing, they won’t become friends anymore.

Never once in my life I believe that a woman and a man could be a lover once and a friend later. If they can, either one of them still hold a feeling toward the other even after the breakup or maybe they were never be a real lover before. But not being friend doesn’t mean that they hate each other or can’t stand the presence of the other. It’s just that they don’t see the necessary of being friend with each other.

Friend, lover, or nothing, there’s only one way in a periodical time. You can’t be both in the same time.